Bullying
is by all standards, a major threat to children’s growth and development.
Unknown to parents, bullied children can be coerced to series of trauma ranging
from low self esteem to depression and possibly, suicide. Also, a child who is
sustainably bullied in school without the protection of the school authority
can at a point lose interest in school despite his parent’s effort to reconcile
his interest with education.
This of course, can either lead to poor grades or other unpleasant realities. Findings reveal that some children stretch as far
as patronizing different forms of hard drugs in order to boast their ability to
resist bullies. Leaving your child at the mercy of a bully is certainly a
terrible thing to do. I’m sure you won’t like what he’ll become while trying to
protect himself all alone, so, to impede the prevalence of terrible changes, you
are encouraged to jump in and help before it’s too late.
Here are effective ways of protecting him:
1. Be aware of the situation
It’s important to know what transpired between your child and the bully
first and foremost. Sometimes bullying may occur as a result of your child’s
aggression against a disguise bully. It may also be a deliberate act of humiliation
perpetrated on your child with regards to no tangible reasons. It’s really
essential to be aware of the situation before swinging into action.
Bullying springs in
many different ways and the common ones are: punching, kicking and pushing. A child can also be bullied verbally through name calling, but the worst form of
bullying is spreading negative rumors about a child in order to tarnish his
image as well as barring him from the comity of friends. In order to protect
your child from being bullied, you are expected to be aware of the type of
bullying you child is facing.
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2. Talk sense into
him
Your
child isn’t too frail to survive bullying attempts on him, so, the idea of fortifying him
with the right mentality will go a long way in shielding him against bullies.
Endeavor to make it clear to your child that it’s impossible to ridicule him
without his consent; he must also be made to understand that bullying exists.
Acquaint him with all forms of bullying ranging from punching, teasing to
negative rumors.
A clear understanding about these things before
experiencing them will place him in a better position to resist bullying
attempts on him. You won’t be there to protect him always, so, talking sense
into him will arm him quite enough to protect himself in your absence.
3. Acquaint him with resistance
tips
In
my personal observation, bullies tend to avoid children with intrinsic ability
to resist bullying attempts. The weak ones are their main target. My little
niece enjoys a wealth of peace at their crèche owing to her ability to resist
any attempt aimed at taking undue advantage of her.
Among adults for example, i personally observe
that people seem to avoid the idea of constituting any form of nuisance to
people with track records of repelling intimidation. Teaching your child to
always run for cover as a result of attacks mainly from his peers is such a
weak idea. Habits die hard, if you teach a child to be weak, he or she may grow
up with that mentality.
Teach your child to resist intimidation attempts
on him by his peer as well as reporting bullying attempts on him by someone
older than him to the right authority. Also, if he’s faced with verbal bullying
like name calling and comments aimed at ridiculing him, teach your children to
talk back.
Name calling is usually aimed at ridiculing a victim,
so, instead of retiring soberly to a corner while the bullies are having a
filled day, talking back can effortlessly strangle their aim. Your child must not be
encouraged to always cry home to tell you what his peers did to him. He must
learn to repel attacks on him henceforth.
4. Express your displeasure
If
your child complains about persistent attack on him in school or around the
neighborhood, get to know the perpetrators and consequently express your
displeasure over their attacks on your child. If it’s in school, draw the
schools attention to the trend and express your readiness to take action if the
situation isn’t arrested.
People tend to be
much more careful with children whose parents are always ready to bare their
fangs with regards to maltreatment perpetrated on their children. Be
persistently at alert and swiftly call to order, any intentional act of
brutality regarding your child.
5.
Take action
If your numerous
warnings tend to fall on deaf ears, employing the service of a lawyer must be
considered. At times the hard way seems to be the best way of bringing to an
end, unfavorable situation aimed at discomforting an individual. Who knows?
Employing the service of a lawyer may stretch as far as rescuing other children
from the bondage of bullying.
Read Also: How to Keep Your Kids Safe at Home
Bluntly, bullying
must be sternly frowned at, owing to its enormous disadvantages in a child’s
life. It must not be allowed to co – exist with our children, so, endeavor to
bare your fangs should need spring.
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